Thursday, July 5, 2007

The First Date

So you meet this guy, you are so psyched that you find him attractive, you have talk for a while, you exchange numbers .... sound familiar?

At this point i say the wait is on ... the wait is usually the time between when a man gets your number and the moment he uses it. Now-a days i have heard there is an unspoken 3 day time frame, which is that he usually calls within that 3 day s or he waits that long to call, personally i think thats silly. if he is interested and not into games he will call you by day 2.

Okay so day 2 rolls around and you look at your phone and lo and behold he calls, you have the first conversation and you set up the FIRST DATE.

So here my rules/thoughs about the first date - please feel free to agree/disagee

1. Do agree to do something you personally like or enjoy, hey if you are going to be out with this stranger you might as well know that even if your date is bad you will enjoy yourself.

2. Don't overdress or go over board with how you look, if you get there and he is casually dressed then it looks like you are trying to hard.

3. Do know where you are going, so at least you can dress appropraitely for the location.

4. Don't pick an activity that doesn't allow you to have a conversation or be close to one another, because after all the firstdate is all about getting to know each other ... or better still figuring out if you want to go on the second date.

5. Do be honest, you might never see this guy again, so why lie? also don't try to act like what you are not, because he will find out after subsequent date who you really are, so he might as well know on the first go.

6. Don't build it up, you may be excited about the date, but don't overthink, build it up or over hype it, because 9 times out of 10 it won't live up to you imagination.

7. Don't let him pick you up from home - it's the millenium meet him there - plus if he is psycho do you really want him knowing where you live?

8. To kiss or not to kiss on the first date - this is a hard one ... I say go with the flow ..if you want to and you are feeling it then go for it. but i do feel it sets the tone for the relationship, i say hold out till at least the 2nd or 3rd date ... build up to it come on you are worth it.

9. Don't offer to pay - ladies i know you are independent and all, but i still believe the man should take care of you, have more dates you can pay for in the future, let the first one be on him.

10. Do say thank you, be appreciative of the date and his company.

Those are my top 10, but after this i feel the wait begins again, do you call him and set up the second date or do you wait for him to call ...i will let my readers comment on that ... Call or let hime call? what do you think?


Anonymous said...

Jessica Rabbit
1. Might as well pick somewhere you're familiar with, unless he suggest an exciting place you're willing to try.
2. Look good but don't it makes your date feel comfortable with you.
3. These days you can google a place, find info on the dress code and such if you really care about you meeting the dress standard..if it's going to be the start of a good relationship which you'll never know until subsequent dates come along, might as well make it a memorable one :-)
4. I enjoy sharing really learn a lot from the first date. No point in scheduling a next date if you can find out all you need on the first one!
5. I try to be honest and I'd hope he'd do the same so we can both make decisions if we want to keep seeing each other ;-)
6. Agree with you 101%....don't build it up but be a little excited too though.
7. Definitely no picking up from home if you're meeting him for the first or second time
8. I'd say don't kiss on the first date. Some guys just never know where to draw the line and trust you don't want to be mauled like a piece of meat on your first date. (Which if happens, I hope you're definitely deleting his number and email for life!)
9. Yup! Learnt the hard way......ladies! Really don't offer to pay on the first date.
10. Do say thank you! A nice text message would be nice and also set the tone for a next date depending on his response (If he sends one back LOL!)
July 05 2:03 P

Anonymous said...

I will call him the next day to say another thank you, if i enjoyed the date.

Anonymous said...

I completely agree with the 10 guidelines for the first date. The first date should be ALL about comfort ... dress comfortable and choose activities that will make you comfortable so that you can be YOURSELF and get to know the guy & most importantly HAVE FUN :)!!!